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How does porn effect society ?

How does porn effect society ?

In May 1989, the Pontifical Council for Social Communication (Vatican) had already issued warnings to the media concerning the effect of porn – dangers which are today much better recognised and understood. Taken from a document which aims to “illustrate the most serious effects pornography and violence have on individuals and on society”.

Day-to-day experience will confirm what we have found in studies, carried out across the world, on the negative consequences of pornography. In pornography, present at the heart of the media industry thanks to the use of audio-visual technologies, we witness a violation of the right to the “privacy” of the human body, in its manly or womanly nature. It’s a violation which reduces the human person, and the human body, to an anonymous object destined to be misused and whose intention is to trigger concupiscent pleasure. Violence, in this context, can be understood as an exhibition, provoking the most basic of human instincts, behaviour which is contrary to the dignity of the person and which exercises an intense physical strength in a deeply offensive and often impassioned manner. Specialists are sometimes divided on the extent of the impact of this phenomenon and the manner in which individuals and groups are marked by it. The basic outlines of the problem however, are now clearly defined and deeply worrying.

1. Porn = sexual impairment, perversion of human relationships, slavery of individuals, destruction of the couple and the family

Nobody can consider themselves exempt from the degrading effects of pornography and violence, or safe from the damage caused by those who let themselves be seduced by it. Children and young people are particularly vulnerable, especially at risk to exposure and becoming victims themselves. Pornography and sadistic violence impair sexuality, pervert human relationships, enslave individuals – in particular children and women -, destroy marriage and family life, create anti-social attitudes and weaken the moral fibre of society.

Nobody can consider themselves exempt from the degrading effects of pornography and violence, or safe from the damage caused by those who let themselves be seduced by it. Children and young people are particularly vulnerable, especially at risk to exposure and becoming victims themselves. Pornography and sadistic violence impair sexuality, pervert human relationships, enslave individuals – in particular children and women -, destroy marriage and family life, create anti-social attitudes and weaken the moral fibre of society.

It’s obvious that one of the effects of pornography is sin (= cutting yourself off from the love of God, ndlr). The voluntary participation in the production and diffusion of these harmful products must be considered as a serious moral evil. In addition, its production and diffusion wouldn’t be taking place if there wasn’t a market for it or a demand. Those who use this material are not just injuring themselves but are also contributing to the promotion of a harmful trade.

This is extremely troubling for young children who are frequently exposed to violence through digital media, at an age where they still unable to distinguish clearly between imagination and reality. Sadistic violence at the heart of digital media can condition people who are particularly impressionable, especially young people, to the point that they consider it acceptable, normal and worthy of imitation.

2. The link between pornography, sadistic violence and murder

We’ve already stated that a link exists between pornography and sadistic violence. A certain type of pornography is openly violent in its expression and content. Those who watch, listen to or read such material risk introducing it into their own behaviour. They end up losing any respect for others as the children of God, and as brothers and sisters of the same human family. Such a link between pornography and sadistic violence has particular implications on people suffering from mental illness.

What we call “softcore” pornography can progressively paralyse our sensitivity to it, gradually suffocating the moral compass of individuals to the point of rendering them morally and personally indifferent to the rights and dignity of others. Pornography – like drugs – creates a need and pushes individuals to look for more exciting and perverse material, “hardcore” pornography. The probability of developing an anti-social attitude will be all the greater, as the process continues.

Pornography favours fantasies and unhealthy behaviours. It compromises the moral development of the person and their healthy adult relationships, particularly within marriage and the context of a family, which demands a certain mutual trust between everyone, as well as moral integrity in word and deed.

Pornography undermines the familial character of authentic human sexuality. In the sense that it turns sexuality into the frenetic search for personal pleasure, rather than a durable expression of love within a marriage. Pornography appears to be capable of undermining family life in its entirety.

At its worst, pornography becomes an inciting or reinforcing element for cases concerning serious and dangerous sexual aggression, and so is an indirect accomplice. Crimes against children, abductions and murders.

One of the central messages of pornography and violence is contempt for others: who are no longer considered as people. Pornography and violence erase tenderness and compassion, paving the way for indifference and even brutality.

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What does pornography do to marriages? 
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What does pornography do to marriages? 

What does pornography do to marriages? *

To be blunt, pornography is the perfect way to shoot your future marriage in the head. Imagine that a young man has a habit of using pornography, and he does not reveal this to his fiancée.

He hopes that once he is married, the desires for illicit sexual arousal will subside. But what becomes of his lust once he marries? It does not disappear; it is foisted upon his wife. The pornography has trained him to react to the sexual value of a woman and nothing else. He has trained himself to believe that women should be physically flawless and constantly sexually accessible.

Even if he rejects this intellectually, the fact remains that pornography has warped the way he looks at women. You could say that he views the world through porn-goggles. He only knows how to look at women through the lens of lust. One psychologist who specializes in sexuality problems noticed, “the more time you spend in this fantasy world, the more difficult it becomes to make the transition to reality.”[1]

Provided a man’s wife is a life-size Barbie doll with a squad of makeup artists and hairdressers who follow her around the house, things might run smoothly for a time. But when reality confronts fantasy, the man will be left disillusioned, and the woman’s self image will suffer. No real-life woman can ever fulfill his disordered desires and fantasies. They focus solely upon self-centered gratification rather than mutual self-giving and joy in pleasing one’s spouse.

One woman explained that if a man’s real-life partner is not always as available sexually and willing to do whatever he wishes as the women he has fantasized about, he may accuse her of being a prude. If she looks normal, and unlike the models he has come to adore, he may accuse her of being fat. If she has needs, the passive images in the magazines, then she may seem too demanding for him.[2]

 

In other words, he will be quick to blame his disorder on her; his fantasies will have robbed him of the ability to be truly intimate with his wife. One reason he is unable to have healthy intimacy with his wife is because intimacy is not an escape from reality but the capacity to see the beauty of the other. The presence of lust in the heart of the man blocks his ability to view the woman as a person. He has reduced her to an object and ignored her value as a person. When this happens he forfeits love. True intimacy is impossible.

It has been said that the problem with pornography is not simply that it shows too much but that it shows too little. It reduces a woman to nothing more than her body. Thus a man will assume that the greater the body, the greater the value of the woman. With this mindset men not only expect their future wives to look no less perfect than Miss September; they also don’t appreciate a woman’s most beautiful and precious qualities, since a centerfold display can never reveal these. This drives men to look elsewhere in an impossible quest to satisfy their lust. After all, pornography fosters the false mentality that casual, uncommitted sex is the most fulfilling and enjoyable. Who does not want to be fulfilled?

One response to the marital dissatisfaction often caused by pornography habits is to bring pornography into the bedroom. This is a vain effort on the part of the man to have the illicit excitement he has formed an attachment to. The poor wife may allow this, but the joy of loving has escaped the man, who no longer sees the value of the person and the need to deny himself for her. Married couples who use pornography find that their marital problems only worsen. If a husband needs to pretend that his wife is someone else in order for him to be excited, then he will become less and less drawn to her. Instead of making love to her, he is destroying love between them. At the very moment he is supposed to be renewing his wedding vows with his body, he’s committing adultery in his mind.

Sexual dissatisfaction: don’t try porn!

Because the effects of pornography are so severe, Christian men and women have an obligation to rid their lives of it. According to Pope John Paul II, God “assigns the dignity of every woman as a task to every man.”[3] When we act in a way that is contrary to the dignity of others, we act contrary to our own dignity. For this reason, the Holy Father says, “each man must look within himself to see whether she who was entrusted to him as a sister in humanity, as a spouse, has not become in his heart an object of adultery.”[4]

Even if pornography had no adverse effects on people, we must never forget that sin is not simply a social matter. We owe it to our neighbors to love them, but we also owe it to God to honor him in all our actions and thoughts. To lust after his daughters is a grave sin, even if no one becomes pregnant as a result of another’s imagination.

“So shun youthful passions and aim at righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call upon the Lord from a pure heart” (2 Tim. 2:22).

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(*) Source : A text by Jason Evert from his book If You Really Loved Me (Chastity Project, 2007), freely adapted for SOSporno.net/SOSporn.org. Author of many other books on male-female love, he and his wife Crystalina run the website chastityproject.com and live with their children in Colorado.

Notes

(1). Marriott, “Men and Porn,” The Guardian (November 8, 2003).
(2). Laurie Hall, “When Fantasy Meets Reality” (www.pureintimacy.org).
(3). Pope John Paul II, general audience, November 24, 1982. As quoted by Man and Woman He Created Them, 519.
(4). Pope John Paul II, apostolic letter, Mulieris Dignitatem 14 (On the Dignity and Vocation of Women) (Boston: Pauline Books & Media, 1988).

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