Frequently asked questions
Will marriage resolve my pornography addiction?
Is marriage compatible with pornography addiction?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?Â
You have a girlfriend (boyfriend) and itâs getting serious; youâve decided youâre going to marry them, both of you have said âyesâ! Itâs planned to take place this year. In the picture youâre painting, all is well, the colours are well-chosen, the characters are in the right place, but thereâs a problem with the shadowy areas.
First of all, there is a question you must ask yourself: Do you really want to break this addiction or do you think this is more a way of creating of a loophole?
In fact, underneath it all, you might say to yourself pornography will be helpful for your relationship. In times of boredom or fatigue, you can look at pictures to pass the time, find pleasure, introduce fantasy or break the routine of the sexual life of your couple.
However, I really donât think this is going to help you. Pornography addiction is questionable as a wedding present. And above anything else, itâs not likely to improve your addiction but will introduce new hesitations and doubts into the heart of your relationship.
You and your âplus 1â will surely bring different personal histories to your relationship, which play a role in the rapport with your sexuality. Pornography presents us with a vision of sexuality that makes use of the otherâs body for our own pleasure first, with their pleasure secondary.
What are the dangers associated with this addiction?
Youâve seen an enormous number of images or behaviours, when watching films or looking at pictures. Pornography has changed your relationship with reality, by making you journey through a universe of illusions. Naturally, this brings you to think about reproducing the gestures youâve seen, but they donât in fact correspond with the situations within your marriage. These acts, carried out under the influence of the images youâve seen, wonât be inspired by your desire to delight the other.
In marriage, thereâs a whole other relationship at play. Itâs the total gift to give. Love, fidelity and honesty are expressed in the language of the body.
The point of marital union isnât firstly pleasure, but rather an intimate union with the other.
The best wedding present you can give to your plus 1 and yourself, is to get help. This addiction is serious, and trying to break out of it by yourself is too complex.
So at this question, “Will marriage resolve my pornography addiction?”, the answer is no.
How do you do it?
Youâll need to be accompanied by a specialist or ask for help. However, be very careful not to treat your partner as a therapist.
We can help you, and suggest you entrust this important step to Carlo Acutis. Donât hesitate to talk to us via the chat (free and anonymous).
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